While there on Tuesday I did indicate to Ruth that I thought she needed more help. Jean was confused and combative, and Ruth told me she (Jean) had fallen the night before. I clearly indicated my desire to help, as did many others. I was not taken up on that.
On Wed, Karen and Jillian were supposed to visit. I messaged her to remind her (also as a poke because I was getting no info) and was told all visits were now cancelled. She said her sister was coming over. Because info was so … sparse … I also started texting Quinn.
Quinn always had the info before me. When I said visits were cancelled, they already knew.
I wasn't invited over so I offered help via food and suggested I bring lunch. I showed up around 11am with sandwiches. While I was there, the hospice nurse came. We were notified that you “were in transition” … a real weird way to say you were dying and that time was up.
Jeff was out of town in Detroit during all of this. I let him know what was happening and he began the journey back. I called Jeff’s parents in to help that night. I needed to go get my kids from school and left around 2:30. When I left, there were quite a few people there. A nurse was being called in overnight to help with Jean. I ordered a bunch of stuff from Target delivery to help with things they needed around the house.
I got the kids and met up with my in-laws. I grabbed a ton of pillows and blankets, assuming that myself (and others) would be camping out at your place that night. I returned to your place after setting things up with Rick & Kathy and the kids. Other people came in and out that night, Michael & Brian, Miriam, etc.. Again, some of this is already getting confusing. Kathleen (a High School friend) was there that night and we chatted quite a bit. This becomes important later.
While I was there planning was happening for the wake and/or funeral. Calls were being made to find a service provider and (I think) this is when I noticed them start looking at plots. Perhaps this was the next day, because its (already getting blurry). My input was not requested and no information was provided to me.
The night nurse showed up and I was there while Ruth explained the medication and showed him where he’d sleep. At that point I was told it was all good there and guided out the door.